Sometimes we begin once, twice or even three times before we find the meaning that lights our path and makes it clearer than anything we have ever experienced before. Our own light is somehow drawn to that path and the power that it brings collectively, gives us the ability to overcome and heal the past.
Healing can be a long difficult road, with twists and turns, times of awareness and acceptance amidst the times of confusion and overwhelm. It can be a time of remembrance, feeling and letting go or a time of holding tight and hanging on in the battle with the parts that want to protect us at all costs. Inefficiently working as the brain often does to keep us safe, we are often left only in a state of fight, flight or freeze with no way to get out, in a state of fear that is sometimes more painful than the truth.
Isn’t it interesting that the very thing that we find that heals us and our lives can become the life we want to live, the gift we want to give and the love we choose to share with others around us who are also hurting.
For me it began as a lifetime of pain and confusion as I tried to make sense of the anger and why it was there. On the inside there was so much love, but it was trapped underneath a layer of darkness and shame. I tried so many things to find my answers but none of them stuck, each time I would feel disappointed, discouraged and at times hopeless, but I held on and kept trying, kept searching, although at times only in my heart.
How many others felt this way? I wondered. Why did I feel so alone?
Step by step the journey continued, and one experience led to another, a time of learning until the truth began to come together and the empty spaces became filled. I took a chance on me for the first time in my life even though it felt like it was too late, and I realized that suffering the way that I understood it, wasn’t the necessary ingredient to healing.
One day a reminder came of something that I had learned so many years before that at the time I wasn’t ready for but now it was clear, it was light, and I felt it all over my being. My soul came alive and gradually I knew what I had to do.
I became trained to be trauma informed and with that my own trauma surfaced and I could no longer ignore it, so I took some time and worked on myself first, which I still do but as I began training as a Clinical EFT Practitioner, I learned that I could guide others through healing even when I needed to continue healing myself. I also learned that I really could work with others with deep trauma and not be triggered by my own, to the point that it was a problem.
My healing continues and as it does, I now do what I love most, I serve those who struggle with a lack of emotional regulation, who have nervous system dysregulation, and who live with the results of what has happened to them.
The body holds the emotions of the neglect, the fear, the abuse, the tragedy, the perceived failure, the confusion and the shame that it all brings.
Almost everyone has experienced some kind of trauma in the past or present. Even those who claim to have had the perfect childhood find that when they look at what is going on with them currently that there may be memories that they have shut down or forgotten.
There are also those who live with the results of unfelt emotions and have symptoms that began because of not being able to feel those emotions. Does EFT cure disease? Obviously, that’s not something that we can claim but for some there have been miracles and improvements that they never expected.
Lowered Cortisol levels after only one session, amazing improvements in those with PTSD after only a few sessions. Anxiety and Depression lessened or greatly improved rapidly. And at this point Clinical EFT and General EFT are no longer just a Fad. It is now Evidence and Scientifically proven with studies and trials that include brain scans to show the results. It is no longer thought of as just that funny looking thing that people do with tapping on their face and upper body. It is now known that it is based on current psychological and ancient practices and techniques that have worked for thousands of years.
We can no longer ignore the tragedy of what happens to people because of the trauma that they have experienced and think that the only solution is to take them back to the past, to the event that caused that pain to begin with and let them fight their way back. There are other gentler techniques and practices that can be used slowly and carefully to keep them from being re-traumatized and having to hurt even more. This is what I do, and what I love to choose every day of my life and no matter my age, I will continue for as long as I am able.
If you experience physical or emotional pain, phobias, urges or addictions, a lack of emotional regulation, nervous system dysregulation, anxiety, depression, fear, dissociation, overeating, brain fog, overwhelm, lack of motivation, difficulty sleeping, lack of energy, grief, or shame. These are only a few of the things that Clinical EFT is used for. If you have questions or want more information- please ask me at any time.
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